I’m a grown woman!

Man! I’ve grown so much is year. Even I am proud of my own growth. I used to be so bothered about little things. I used to care what people thought about me. I was in friendships I had long outgrown. But I remember January this year, I told myself I was going to only do things and be in relationships that genuinely made me happy. As long as I didn’t put anyone in harm’s way.


I walked away from toxic friendships earlier this year. I lived my life freely. I made business decisions that made me scared. Sometimes I’d want to do something with my business but I’d get paralyzed by the fear of what people might think or say e.g. ‘She’s not consistent or focused’. But this year I told myself it’s my business not theirs, and I will keep tweaking and making changes until I arrive at the model I want.


A very important lesson I learned this October though is that you have to be okay with not getting closure. This is the second time I’m having to learn this lesson, but I’ve done way better this time around. You cannot control people’s opinions of you. You cannot control people’s decisions to walk out of your life. All you can do is be a good person and face your front. It hurt. It paralyzed me a little. But I talked myself out of it, and focused instead on the amazing people still left in my life. Something my dad always said rang true though. To not ask for favors so that you don’t end up owing the wrong people. But what of favors you didn’t ask for? And then they hold it over you that they’ve made sacrifices for you. What’s friendship if we’re not sacrificing for each other?


Random ramblings & musings.


My 33rd birthday is exactly a week away. I want to do something fun!


D. xx


What I Learned About Kids Today

If you live in Lekki [heck, Lagos] you’re well aware of the floods that we were graced with today. Thankfully, The Boy & I live in an upstairs apartment. Unfortunately, the neighbors downstairs got fully flooded. Like, the water got up to the level of their beds and furniture and stuff. They have two kids; age 5 & 12. It’s been raining nonstop for days. But we didn’t see the flood coming. We live on a street in Lekki that never gets flooded, no matter how much it rains.

It was a regular Saturday morning. But it was raining heavily. And the thunderstorm affected my sleep. So I was trying to get a little more sleep, even as it kept raining. I had planned to go to work for around 9/10am so I wanted to get as much sleep as possible. Husband’s phone rang a few minutes to 8am & it was the neighbors. What could they want? Anyways he answered, and they asked if they could send their daughters upstairs because their entire apartment was flooded. Of course, the sleep cleared from my eyes. He ran downstairs to get the kids. And that was the beginning of my day. [We later found out both our cars were fully filled with water as well, but thank God it wasn’t our cars & home, right?]

First thing I did was make breakfast. Pancakes, eggs, sausages, baked beans. Then I realized they could be allergic. I called their parents to ask about any allergies. None. So all 4 of us got on the table to eat. Little girl wanted syrup, older girl didn’t. I put the syrup on her pancakes. She tasted it. She didn’t like it. The Boy & I had to swap unsyrupped pancakes with her. Then she decided altogether that she didn’t like pancakes. But she liked the eggs. So The Boy gave her all of his eggs. She ate it. And wanted more. So I gave her all of my eggs too. That was lesson 1. Sacrifices. We each had to sacrifice all of our eggs for her.

Lesson 2. Sticky things. After they left, I had to clean up. My house that gets cleaned a couple of times a week had to be cleaned a couple of times while they were here. You see, I suffer from OCD. So everything had to get cleaned as it was happening. Spilled juice. Spilled water. Cookie crumbs. All sorts. When they left and I was doing general cleaning, I found lots of sticky things on the couch and floor. I have no idea what they were. I don’t even want to know to be honest, LOL!

Lesson 3. Lost & found. The 12 year old was very calm and gentle. I guess she was in a new environment [they’ve never hung out with us before] so it took her some time to get comfortable. But even after she got comfortable, she was still very calm and pleasant. The 5 year old however did NOT hold back. She was dancing ballet, doing cartwheels [scattering the house], picking things, examining things. I had to constantly be alert. I couldn’t even take a nap. Because if I snoozed for even 2 minutes she found something to touch [that she shouldn’t be touching – hey! I have no kids so my house isn’t childproof]. One of the times she was hungry and I was going to make her something to eat, I couldn’t find the lighter. I asked if she took it and she said no. I was confused. There’s only one place I ever keep it. I later found it in one random drawer in the kitchen, along with the many other things she ‘collected’. Upon asking her she simply said “oh sorry, I forgot”.

Lesson 4. Multiple meals. I swear I fed them at least 4-5 times in the 12 hours that they spent with us. No joke. And there were many snacks in between. Wow. And their portion sizes were way bigger than mine. I was in awe.

Lesson 5. The most important. Be happy for no reason like a child. Despite everything happening and their reason for being here, they didn’t seem phased about anything. The younger one was sad for a few minutes about her teddy bear drowning. But in a few minutes she snapped out of it and was back to her bubbly self.

It was definitely an adventurous & fun day.  Now I need to take a very hot shower and relax.

Ps. They found a fish swimming in their living room. This is no joke.

D. xx

Everything Else, Life

My October !!!


October is my month. Yes, I was born in October. But I also just have a great feeling about this month. Like everything I’m working on will finally come together. Amen. So October is all about meeeeee! I plan to have fun, explore, do more of the things I love, and THRIVE!


It’s also breast cancer awareness month ladies. Don’t tell yourself “it can’t happen to me”. Please go get your boobies checked out. I need to go get mine done next week as well.

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D. xxx


Everything Else, Life

Social Detox!

This morning I realized just how much time I waste on social media. Many days I tell myself that I don’t have time to get my yoga done in the morning. Cos I feel like I’m always a hurry in the morning.

However this morning, the Internet was down. So I had no access to any social media. I got out of bed as soon as I was wide awake. I didn’t waste the first 10 minutes catching up on emails, Instagram, or twitter. I said my prayers. I sorted out fabric that I needed to take with me to my workshop. I did some cleaning. Then I was bored. And it wasn’t time to go to work yet. I kept wondering what happened. I didn’t wake up earlier. So why was I bored? Why did I have all this spare time?
Then it dawned on me. No social media! It really is a time waster. I’m not saying social media is wrong or bad, don’t get me wrong. But we are constantly connected. From the minute we wake up, until we go back to bed at night. Some even check up on social media if they happen to wake up at some point during the night. Why does social media control our lives so?

I think it’s very important for each of us to commit to disconnecting. Decide when you’ll disconnect everyday, and see how it affects your life. 30 mins a day? 1 hour a day? Just try it for a week and see what it does. I used to do it religiously for sometime. Usually from around 6:30 to 7:30pm, I would leave my phone upstairs, and go downstairs with a book. If it was too close to me, I’d be tempted to check on it. I definitely recommend a minimum of 30 minutes a day. Start with a weekly detox maybe, and then 2/3 days a week, then ease into a daily detox if you’re really attached.
Are you addicted to your phone? Are you going to try a daily [or at least weekly] detox?

D. xxx

Africa, Everything Else, Style

Cupcakes in the Wild

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It was the second day of the recent eid holidays in September. My friend called me saying they were going to LCC [Lekki conservation center] just to chill. I figured I didn’t have anything better to do, so I got dressed and headed there.

I wanted to wear something comfortable, but was in the mood for a lot of color. As soon as I opened my wardrobe, this House 38 two piece co-ord set jumped out at me. It was just what I was in the mood for. Super comfy, but still stylish enough, and very colorful.

That’s how I ended up having a photoshoot [with my iPhone] lol. So here are just a few of the pictures, kindly taken by my friend Yinka. I wouldn’t bore you by posting all 200 pictures [kidding!]

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D. xxx

Everything Else

The Smart Money Woman

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Ladies [& gentlemen]. It is soooo important to pay special attention to your financial health, no matter how young you are. Many people wait until it’s too late, and unfortunately get into a lot of trouble. I read ‘The Smart Money Woman’ by Arese Ugwu over the weekend, and it gave me life. I thought I knew all I needed to about managing my money, but now I know better. I like that the book isn’t all personal finance from start to finish, so it’s not boring. I’ve tried and failed to finish many personal finance books because they got too boring. This one actually has a storyline; following the lives of a bunch of young ladies that I could relate to. There was even a love story in there.

What lessons did I learn from this book?

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September – Wellness

Willworkforairmiles will work for air miles Yay, September!!!! My little sister turns 30 this month. I’m so excited you’d think its me turning 30. I’m trying to convince her to have a photoshoot before the day, hehhe. Sucks that I may not get to see her since we live one billion miles apart, but I know she’s going to have an amazing day. Anyways, I digress. My theme for September is wellness. “Wellness is generally used to mean a healthy balance of the mind, body and spirit that results in an overall feeling of well-being.”  So what do I plan to do? Continue Reading

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August – Giving Back

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Hola hola! It’s been a bit. I didn’t miss out on a theme for the month of August, I just didn’t blog about it. I decided that August was for giving back. I don’t remember how I came to this decision; however I remember feeling very strongly about it. I am deeply passionate about kids; particularly less fortunate kids. And I’ve always wanted a way to give back to them. That’s why I decided to run a Back2School drive, through my kids’ clothing line. Continue Reading

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The Magic of Starting

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The magic of starting.

I’ve read many quotes and articles about starting, and now I truly believe that it’s one of the most important steps in achieving any goal. It only makes sense, right? If you don’t start, then you can never achieve the goal. And if you do start, what’s the worst that can happen? You at least stand a chance. Continue Reading

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Gratitude…and other stories

Today, I walked into a grocery store to buy some bread. I grabbed the bread, and was standing at the checkout counter when I heard the exchange between the cashier and one of the cleaners. The cleaner was begging her to let him buy some beans, N300 worth, but he didn’t have the money. He promised he’d pay tomorrow. She said some nasty words to him, but eventually agreed. She stressed the importance of him paying tomorrow, otherwise she’d get in trouble. The bread I went to buy was N250. Continue Reading